The Fear Of Rejection....

The fear of being rejected has killed and is killing more dreams, careers, talents and even relationships, more than we imagine. Simple words like ‘no’ and 'sorry', can automatically dim your shine and make you give you.

We have all at a point in our life been afraid of going after something we wanted because of the fear of being rejected - story of my life. It is this fear of rejection that is making people do shitty things just to be accepted these days because rejection can be very hard to deal with. Rejection is even making people commit suicide.

Not being accepted into that school, the un-replied job applications, the unanswered emails, the rejected job proposals, and love proposals, not being accepted in a certain society, all that can be very frustrating and can make you spend days doubting yourself and that low self-esteem sucks. 

Imagine working on a project for months, putting in so much effort day and night and then after when you go seeking for sponsorship you keep being given the 'I'm sorry' replies. It can be very frustrating and you would want to give up. It is in frustrating moments like that when we then ask ourselves questions like, “is this even worth it”, “why am I even stressing myself”, and then just like that, we give up on that dream, skill, talent, love…. The thought of getting rejected makes you not want to try at all.

I remember when I was unemployed, I spent months just being at home and not even trying to search for a job because I didn't want to waste my time to print out an application, pay transportation to send it and only not to get the job, so then I will not try at all. But could I stay at home forever without working? No! How am I even going to survive in this world? So I then I realized no matter what, I have to try because, after all I will not be the first or the last to have my job application disregarded.

So the fact is, rejection is a part of life which would have made our life easier if we could deal with it as it comes . We are all bound to face it sometime in life, so as hard as it is to deal with, we just have to keep pushing because, rejection helps us to reevaluate ourselves, work on our skills and look out for better opportunities. Rejection has pushed some people to be at a better place in their life.

Most of the successful people we see today did not just make it with one attempt, they had to deal with a number of rejections before their final breakthrough.

So what am I hitting at? I am saying the “nos’’ and the “I'm sorry’s” will come but at the end of the day, what is important is that we take it in good faith, learn from it, work on it and bounce back better, and not give up. The worst thing that can happen is not being rejected but giving up on ourselves.

So we have to constantly remind ourselves of why we started in the first place and not let the fear of rejection hold us back and kill our dreams. But most importantly we have to pray and ask God for the strength to deal with the pain of rejection so that we do not give up.

Rejection is not a “your life has ended” letter. It is your “better days ahead” notice, to keep fighting. After all Rome was not built in a day so.... And someday we will talk of our experiences as success stories to inspire others.

Have you ever been rejected? How did you deal with it? Will you say it has encouraged you to be better? I will be glad to get inspired by some of your experiences.